About Me: Annalisa Bahadur
Come with me into a bedroom in New Delhi, India. A young woman sits on the edge of a bed with ridges of tears dried onto her young face. She feels defeated – helpless, unworthy, and lonely. It’s a familiar feeling. Touching rock bottom has been a constant phenomenon nearly most of her life. But this time, while the pain is nothing new – it’s felt more deeply.
As her thoughts and feelings spiral out of control, she finds her mind echoing a recurring question — “Why does this keep happening to me?”
That young woman is me. It’s twenty-seven-year-old me to be exact. I am trying to make sense of why I always end up in this place of feeling not good enough. And I decided to take on that question because I was tired of depending on everyone to fulfill my emotional needs and to validate my worth.
As her thoughts and feelings spiral out of control, she finds her mind echoing a recurring question — “Why does this keep happening to me?”
That young woman is me. It’s twenty-seven-year-old me to be exact. I am trying to make sense of why I always end up in this place of feeling not good enough. And I decided to take on that question because I was tired of depending on everyone to fulfill my emotional needs and to validate my worth.
My own narrative kicked in — life is a classroom, and experiences are our lessons. I decided to free myself of fear and I chose to reshape my narrative. A purposeful and tenacious spirit took a hold and I started my healing journey towards a life of gentleness, peace, and unconditional self-love.
I want to believe my tenacity to push back at life helped me emotionally and mentally survive growing up in Guyana, India and the US. I learned to accept life as it happens because I have seen that once we get through the uncomfortable and unwanted experiences, we become a stronger and better version of ourselves to stand in the face of any adversity. And it’s quite liberating to stand up to life and say, Let’s see what else you’ve got that I can’t overcome.”
This freedom I now feel to love freely and still be in control of my emotions inspired me to help others achieve the same results. I do that by combining traditional counseling and coaching techniques to uncover the unique strengths that will guide others through healing from childhood trauma and trauma from life experience.
My work is a reflection of a life driven by a dream of a revolution of happiness – a dream that compels me to empathize with those who have been unkind, and thus, rapidly reshaping painful experiences into sources of growth. My approach is curious and compassionate because I find it’s the only way that I can patiently lead my clients out of the darkness of trauma, anxiety, and despair, to a life of liberation.
It’s a unique journey of rediscovery, rebirth, and healing deep wounds that I believe will set us free.
I want to believe my tenacity to push back at life helped me emotionally and mentally survive growing up in Guyana, India and the US. I learned to accept life as it happens because I have seen that once we get through the uncomfortable and unwanted experiences, we become a stronger and better version of ourselves to stand in the face of any adversity. And it’s quite liberating to stand up to life and say, Let’s see what else you’ve got that I can’t overcome.”
This freedom I now feel to love freely and still be in control of my emotions inspired me to help others achieve the same results. I do that by combining traditional counseling and coaching techniques to uncover the unique strengths that will guide others through healing from childhood trauma and trauma from life experience.
My work is a reflection of a life driven by a dream of a revolution of happiness – a dream that compels me to empathize with those who have been unkind, and thus, rapidly reshaping painful experiences into sources of growth. My approach is curious and compassionate because I find it’s the only way that I can patiently lead my clients out of the darkness of trauma, anxiety, and despair, to a life of liberation.
It’s a unique journey of rediscovery, rebirth, and healing deep wounds that I believe will set us free.
We spend too much time worrying bout what they are thinking and doing, instead of focusing on what we want and how we can achieve that.”
- Annalisa Bahadur
My Mission
To teach attachment style from an empathetic perspective to as many people as I can so that we can all have the healthy relationships we want.
Why my approach
I find that we want to understand why we had to live through certain heartbreaking experiences. Many of us, don’t like the feeling of hurt, anger, regret and not knowing. We want to feel validated and we want our feelings to be justified. We want closure.
Awareness is the first step to understanding that when someone says or does something mean, it never has anything to do with us. It’s not because we are unworthy of love, care, respect, understanding or compassion. It’s generally because something prevents that person who hurts us from being capable to treat us better.
I don’t believe that a person is “bad” either. Like a bicycle wheel, we all have many spokes keeping us together. Those spokes in our life represents the parts of us that’s good and kind, afraid and angry, seeking peace but being attracted to chaos, etc. There are many emotions, thoughts ans feelings that’s stitched together to make up who we are and can become. When we can see ourselves in each other by developing the skill to quickly put ourselves in their mindset, we can begin to appreciate that their brokenness is not a reflection of us. We may also see how our unhealed trauma affects us and our relationships and start the healing journey.
Awareness is the first step to understanding that when someone says or does something mean, it never has anything to do with us. It’s not because we are unworthy of love, care, respect, understanding or compassion. It’s generally because something prevents that person who hurts us from being capable to treat us better.
I don’t believe that a person is “bad” either. Like a bicycle wheel, we all have many spokes keeping us together. Those spokes in our life represents the parts of us that’s good and kind, afraid and angry, seeking peace but being attracted to chaos, etc. There are many emotions, thoughts ans feelings that’s stitched together to make up who we are and can become. When we can see ourselves in each other by developing the skill to quickly put ourselves in their mindset, we can begin to appreciate that their brokenness is not a reflection of us. We may also see how our unhealed trauma affects us and our relationships and start the healing journey.
My Method
Building resilience through adversities is a way to strengthen emotional and psychological muscles. Life should be an adventure and not a chore. Feeling good comes from everything the world gives us, while being good is when we are okay even when the world gives us something we don’t like. Knowing that we don’t know everything is freedom and inspires courage to make decisions and take responsibility.